Will you marry me?

Nothing can prepare you for finding out you have HIV. My first question was: "How long have I got to live?" I shook and cried.

I was planning to see my boyfriend, who lives overseas, three weeks after my diagnosis, and had to try and disguise how dreadful I was feeling emotionally every time we saw each other online. It was so difficult not to let him see my fear, but I somehow managed it.

When I saw him again, three weeks after diagnosis, I had steeled myself to be honest with him. I had kept a diary of how I felt each day from the first phone call from the clinic until the day I told him, so that I could show him.

He took me in his arms, and proposed to me – telling me that it was the only way he could show his depth of feeling and commitment to me.

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Community Consensus Statement on Access to HIV Treatment and its Use for Prevention

Together, we can make it happen

We can end HIV soon if people have equal access to HIV drugs as treatment and as PrEP, and have free choice over whether to take them.

Launched today, the Community Consensus Statement is a basic set of principles aimed at making sure that happens.

The Community Consensus Statement is a joint initiative of AVAC, EATG, MSMGF, GNP+, HIV i-Base, the International HIV/AIDS Alliance, ITPC and NAM/aidsmap

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