Some common themes

It’s difficult to predict the precise nature of the issues that may arise in your relationship because of HIV.

But it’s likely to have an impact on bigger themes that can be present in any relationship, especially when significant stressors are present. Some of the issues include:

• Intimacy – all relationship rely on closeness of some kind, and HIV can change patterns of intimacy, block it completely, or bring couples closer together.
• Change – in roles and responsibilities, in hopes or aspirations, or in material and financial circumstances.
• Inequality – one partner may shoulder more responsibility or more of the financial burden, especially if the other partner isn’t working.
• Uncertainty – about the future, the risk of HIV infection, or about starting a family.
• Communication – disclosure to your partner and others, or discussion of the implications of HIV for your relationship.
• Fear – of illness, bereavement or rejection, of passing on HIV, or of difference.
• Isolation – becoming isolated from friends, family or your community.